What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

　　「透過這樣的視角，我們得以建立一種對於個人價值的全新理解，並且最終能夠重新校正我們應對各種情況、處境、關係的模式。這即是，以另外一種方式來說，重塑我們的生活的關鍵。」─歐普拉

　　這本書將改變你看待自己人生、看待他人行為的方式。

　　你是否曾經疑惑「為什麼我會這麼做」？或者「為什麼我就是不能好好控制我的行為」？其他人可能會因為我們對外在情況、事件的情緒反應和行為，而心想：「天啊，這個人到底是有什麼問題？」甚至當我們檢視自己劇烈的情緒起伏和反應，也經常自我怪罪。

　　是時候，讓我們重新審視，並改變這些「提問」了。

　　本書寫作的契機，來自歐普拉與知名兒童精神科醫師、創傷研究專家布魯斯．D．培理，在2018年一集CBS「60分鐘(60 Minutes)」節目中的對談，這場談話也讓歐普拉表示「完全改變了我看待他人行為的方式」。

　　我們早年的經歷，事實上很大程度影響了我們其後的人生。在本書中，透過極度私人的對話，歐普拉與布魯斯．D．培理，提出對於他人難以理解的個人行為，一個嶄新的、深具開創性的提問與思考角度，帶我們從問：「你到底是怎麼了？」到關心：「在你身上，曾經發生了什麼事？」

　　歐普拉在其中分享了自身的故事，對於人們面對童年創傷與逆境時的脆弱，她尤其能夠感同身受。在本書中，兩人所提出的，處理、面對個人與他人的創傷的方式，是看似微小，但意義及影響力極大的轉變。結合傑出的敘事方式與心理學、神經科學知識，歐普拉與培理帶我們更正確地理解、克服這些來自過去的影響，並為我們打開通向建立心理韌性、讓傷痛獲得治癒的大門。(文/博客來編譯)

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Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

＂Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.＂--Oprah Winfrey

This book is going to change the way you see your life.

Have you ever wondered ＂Why did I do that?＂ or ＂Why can’t I just control my behavior?＂ Others may judge our reactions and think, ＂What’s wrong with that person?＂ When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking ＂What’s wrong with you?＂ to ＂What happened to you?＂

Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future--opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

Over the course of her esteemed career, Oprah Winfrey has created an unparalleled connection with people around the world. As host and supervising producer of the top-rated, award-winning The Oprah Winfrey Show, she entertained, enlightened, and uplifted millions of viewers for twenty-five years. Her continued accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most influential and admired public figures in the world today.

Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D., a child psychiatrist and neuroscientist, is the principal of the Neurosequential Network, senior fellow of the ChildTrauma Academy and an adjunct professor of psychiatry at the Northwestern University School of Medicine in Chicago. He is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children, and Born for Love, about the essential nature of empathy.